Mastering Midlife with Heidi
Are you at a place in your life where you think you should have it all figured out by now? Heidi Gustafson is a Board-Certified Hypnotist and Mindset Coach who has taken all her life challenges and turned them into her superpower of creating a life that she loves… and she coaches midlife women to do the same! If you feel like you've tried everything and still don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place. From painful divorce to retirement, chronic people pleasing to crushing self doubt, Coach Heidi explores the reasons behind our actions and gives real-world solutions to living a happier, more fulfilling life. She'll teach you how to regain self trust, come to terms with the past, and allow space for your future. Midlife can be your best years yet. Stop merely surviving and get ready to thrive with Coach Heidi!
Episodes
46 episodes
45. The Avoidance Trap That Causes Us to Not Set Boundaries
Have you been avoiding certain situations or conversations in order to maintain your sense of control? In this episode, you’ll learn:Four reasons we put limits on ourselves Real life examples of things we avoid in orde...
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44. Boundary Mistakes People Make & How They Add Stress To Your Life
Are you always trying to be everything to everyone and repeatedly make exceptions for the boundaries you’ve set? In this episode, you’ll learn:What leaky boundaries are and seven ways to gauge if you have holes in your boundary buck...
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43. Saying 'Sorry' Is Damaging Your Self Worth! How to Stop Over Apologizing
Do you find yourself apologizing too much, even for things you don’t need to be sorry for? In this episode, you’ll learn:The five reasons we feel the need to apologize so muchHow over-apologizing impacts our relationships a...
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42. How Feeling Guilty & Selfish Destroys Your Self Worth
Constant feelings of guilt and selfishness can be devastating to your self-esteem, making you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself, worried about being seen as self-centered, and afraid to say no or express your true feelings. In thi...
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41. How I FINALLY Learned to Set Boundaries From a Toxic Relationship
Do you struggle with saying no, justifying negative behavior, changing yourself to fit others' expectations, or feeling resentful when your kindness isn't reciprocated? Setting and upholding healthy boundaries is a common struggle for many wome...
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40. Stop Second-Guessing Yourself: Mastering Self-Trust as a People Pleaser
I’m doing something a little different this week and answering a powerful question from a listener about learning how to trust our own decision-making. In this episode, you’ll learn:How we become trained to doubt ourselves from a yo...
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39. The People Pleasing Trap: I’m Not Happy Unless YOU Are Happy!
Does your people pleasing behavior have you feeling like you don’t even know who you are anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn:Why you can’t depend on others for your happiness and what problems arise when you doThree step...
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38. Breaking Free from Perfectionism: 10 Simple Steps
Perfectionism is a thief of happiness, joy, feeling successful, calm, content, fulfilled, or any feeling we'd like to have. It's an exhausting behavior that often causes chronic stress and burnout. But, you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle...
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37. Are You A People Pleaser Who Breaks Promises to Yourself?
Do you find it easier to keep the promises you make to others but struggle with the ones you make to yourself? In this episode, you’ll learn:How breaking promises to ourselves can affect our mental healthThe subconsci...
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36. Part 2: 7 Harmful Myths About People Pleasing
Welcome to part two of our series diving into the harmful myths that keep us trapped in the cycle of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. Tune in as we continue debunking these myths and learning how to break free from their grip. In this episod...
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35. Part 1: 7 Harmful People Pleasing Myths
The pervasive nature of people pleasing can leave us feeling stuck in roles of perfectionism and guilt, suppressing our true selves and hindering authentic connections. Let's break free from this debilitating pattern so you can live the rest of...
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34. Procrastination: The Secret To What Causes Us To Put Things Off
Is procrastination holding you back from living the life you want? Tune in for a fresh perspective on this sometimes debilitating behavior and what you can do to address it. In this episode, you’ll learn:Common misconceptions ...
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33. Worried About What Other People Think? How To Stop This Harmful Pattern
Do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of worrying about what others think? It's a common struggle that affects our confidence, self-worth, and ultimately, our decisions. But why do we care so much, and more importantly, how can we break free ...
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32. Terrified To Speak Up? What It's Costing You & What To Do About It
Does the fear of judgment or rejection have you hesitating to speak your mind? Speaking our truths can be challenging, but withholding our authentic selves can lead to frustration, resentment, and hinder our personal growth. In this episode, I’...
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31. How My People Pleasing Attracted A Toxic Relationship & 5 Steps I Took To Heal
Realizing that I was in a toxic relationship with a man I had married just months before opened my eyes to the devastating effects that people pleasing tendencies can have. In this episode, I’m opening up about what I discovered I was doing to ...
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30. The Worst Question People Pleasers Ask Themselves & What To Ask Instead
Do you find yourself constantly asking "why" questions? Why did I do that? Why can't I get control of my eating? Why am I so disorganized? Then you’re definitely going to want to hear the four reasons why the “why” questions can be detrimental ...
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29. 7 Life-Changing Lessons of An Ex People-Pleasing Procrastinating Perfectionist
In this special anniversary episode, I'm celebrating the one-year milestone of this podcast, my 61st birthday, and the podcast's top 10% global ranking. Join the festivities as I share with you the life-changing lessons I’ve learned on my journ...
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28. Is Your People Pleasing Actually About Control?
People pleasers do what they can to keep others happy, but many times we don't realize that this is a way we maintain control. In today's episode, I'll be sharing what compels us to want to control so much in our lives, and how a single questio...
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27. The ULTIMATE Secret to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions!
A shocking 92% of New Year's resolutions fail every year. But, you can avoid falling into this statistic! In this episode, I’m giving you the 3 science-based reasons why it’s so difficult to make lasting changes with resolutions, and sharing th...
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26. As A People Pleaser, How Being Fired From My Job Was The Best Gift Ever!
Three years ago I went through a devastating moment that turned out to be one of the greatest gifts I could ever receive. In this episode, I’ll share how this pivotal chapter of my life led me to question my deep-seated need for external valida...
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25. How To Keep Your OWN Peace As A Peacekeeper During The Holidays
Do you spend so much energy keeping the peace between others and then find yourself longing for some peace of your own? Peacekeeping is an exhausting pattern that can lead to putting yourself last. In this episode, I'll share two key reasons wh...
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24. Are You The Peacekeeper? 4 Ways To Stay Sane During The Holidays
The holiday season brings hustle & bustle, additional spending, and additional pressure for things to be perfect and for everyone to be happy. In this episode, I'll be sharing why this can cause increased stress for those who are people ple...
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23. Curious To Know If You're Codependent? Ask Yourself These 10 Questions
Codependency has had such a deep impact on my life and I’m ready to explore it more deeply with you. In this episode, we’ll discuss the origins of codependent behaviors, the distinctions between codependency and people-pleasing, and the 10 ques...
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22. The Hidden Price of Being Nice; 3 Differences Between Being Kind & Nice
There are two words that I’ve been mixing up my whole life and you might be too. In this episode, I’ll share with you the profound differences between being nice and being kind, why only one of them helps you to actually be your authentic self,...
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21. 3 Lies People Pleasers Tell Themselves & How They Keep Us Stuck
Ever feel like you're stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing and self-doubt? In this episode, I’ll reveal three common lies that people pleasers tell themselves, and how these beliefs can keep us trapped in frustration and resentment. Join me as I...
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