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Mastering Midlife with Heidi
Are you at a place in your life where you think you should have it all figured out by now? Heidi Gustafson is a Board-Certified Hypnotist and Mindset Coach who has taken all her life challenges and turned them into her superpower of creating a life that she loves… and she coaches midlife women to do the same! If you feel like you've tried everything and still don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place. From painful divorce to retirement, chronic people pleasing to crushing self doubt, Coach Heidi explores the reasons behind our actions and gives real-world solutions to living a happier, more fulfilling life. She'll teach you how to regain self trust, come to terms with the past, and allow space for your future. Midlife can be your best years yet. Stop merely surviving and get ready to thrive with Coach Heidi!
Episodes
55 episodes
54. What 62 Years Taught Me About Self Trust, Self Acceptance, and Self Worth: 10 Lessons
Throughout my life, I've experienced hard lessons that pushed me to figure out self trust and taught me to finally accept myself. Changing your life starts with changing how you see yourself, and in this episode I'm sharing 10 lessons to help y...
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53. The LIE That’s Destroying Your Confidence, Self-Esteem, & Hurting All Your Relationships
How often do you catch yourself changing your words or actions to avoid someone else's negative reaction? If you're familiar with this habit, it might be rooted in a pattern of people-pleasing that erodes your confidence and relationships over ...
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52. Stop These 7 People-Pleasing Behaviors for a Confident, Joy-Filled 2025
Do you ever find yourself saying yes when your gut is screaming no? If you struggle with people-pleasing, this habit can rob you of your time, energy, and self-worth. In this episode, you'll learn:The seven sneaky people-pleasing be...
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51. 8 Secrets to Increase Your Confidence & Self Esteem & Escape the People Pleasing Cycle
It took me over five decades to realize that being "nice" was actually damaging my self esteem and confidence. Today, I'm revealing 8 eye-opening behaviors that were keeping me trapped in this cycle, plus sharing how you can break free from thi...
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50. People Pleasing Trap: How Do I Say ‘No’ & Avoid Disappointing Someone?
Have you ever felt obligated to say yes just to avoid disappointing someone? This common people pleasing dilemma can often leave us feeling overwhelmed and resentful. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why a reluctant yes is more harmful...
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49. How People Pleasing Destroys Self Worth! Take Back Control with One Game-Changing Question
Do you ever catch yourself asking, "what if they don't like me?" If you're a people pleaser, this question can end up running, and even ruining your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:What causes us to people-please and se...
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48. More Life Lessons from an Ex People-Pleasing Procrastinating Perfectionist
If you've ever hesitated to ask for help, felt trapped by your commitments, or lost touch with your true self, this is your wake-up call. In this episode, you’ll learn:The three lessons that shattered my people-pleasing, perfectioni...
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47. 10 Lessons I Learned About Boundaries & Self Worth In A Hot Yoga Class
After 15 years of practicing hot yoga, I’ve learned quite a few lessons that go way beyond the mat. But don’t worry, YOU don't have to know a thing about yoga or bend yourself into a pretzel to learn these lessons too. In this episode you’ll le...
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46. Boundaries: Are You Being Rude & Selfish? A Listener Question
Setting boundaries is one thing, but enforcing them can sometimes leave you feeling guilty and rude. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why we might feel like we’re being rude when setting or enforcing boundariesHow to enforce b...
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45. The Avoidance Trap That Causes Us to Not Set Boundaries
Have you been avoiding certain situations or conversations in order to maintain your sense of control? In this episode, you’ll learn:Four reasons we put limits on ourselves Real life examples of things we avoid in orde...
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44. Boundary Mistakes People Make & How They Add Stress To Your Life
Are you always trying to be everything to everyone and repeatedly make exceptions for the boundaries you’ve set? In this episode, you’ll learn:What leaky boundaries are and seven ways to gauge if you have holes in your boundary buck...
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43. Saying 'Sorry' Is Damaging Your Self Worth! How to Stop Over Apologizing
Do you find yourself apologizing too much, even for things you don’t need to be sorry for? In this episode, you’ll learn:The five reasons we feel the need to apologize so muchHow over-apologizing impacts our relationships a...
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42. How Feeling Guilty & Selfish Destroys Your Self Worth
Constant feelings of guilt and selfishness can be devastating to your self-esteem, making you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself, worried about being seen as self-centered, and afraid to say no or express your true feelings. In thi...
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41. How I FINALLY Learned to Set Boundaries From a Toxic Relationship
Do you struggle with saying no, justifying negative behavior, changing yourself to fit others' expectations, or feeling resentful when your kindness isn't reciprocated? Setting and upholding healthy boundaries is a common struggle for many wome...
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40. Stop Second-Guessing Yourself: Mastering Self-Trust as a People Pleaser
I’m doing something a little different this week and answering a powerful question from a listener about learning how to trust our own decision-making. In this episode, you’ll learn:How we become trained to doubt ourselves from a yo...
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39. The People Pleasing Trap: I’m Not Happy Unless YOU Are Happy!
Does your people pleasing behavior have you feeling like you don’t even know who you are anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn:Why you can’t depend on others for your happiness and what problems arise when you doThree step...
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38. Breaking Free from Perfectionism: 10 Simple Steps
Perfectionism is a thief of happiness, joy, feeling successful, calm, content, fulfilled, or any feeling we'd like to have. It's an exhausting behavior that often causes chronic stress and burnout. But, you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle...
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37. Are You A People Pleaser Who Breaks Promises to Yourself?
Do you find it easier to keep the promises you make to others but struggle with the ones you make to yourself? In this episode, you’ll learn:How breaking promises to ourselves can affect our mental healthThe subconsci...
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36. Part 2: 7 Harmful Myths About People Pleasing
Welcome to part two of our series diving into the harmful myths that keep us trapped in the cycle of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. Tune in as we continue debunking these myths and learning how to break free from their grip. In this episod...
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35. Part 1: 7 Harmful People Pleasing Myths
The pervasive nature of people pleasing can leave us feeling stuck in roles of perfectionism and guilt, suppressing our true selves and hindering authentic connections. Let's break free from this debilitating pattern so you can live the rest of...
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34. Procrastination: The Secret To What Causes Us To Put Things Off
Is procrastination holding you back from living the life you want? Tune in for a fresh perspective on this sometimes debilitating behavior and what you can do to address it. In this episode, you’ll learn:Common misconceptions ...
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33. Worried About What Other People Think? How To Stop This Harmful Pattern
Do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of worrying about what others think? It's a common struggle that affects our confidence, self-worth, and ultimately, our decisions. But why do we care so much, and more importantly, how can we break free ...
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32. Terrified To Speak Up? What It's Costing You & What To Do About It
Does the fear of judgment or rejection have you hesitating to speak your mind? Speaking our truths can be challenging, but withholding our authentic selves can lead to frustration, resentment, and hinder our personal growth. In this episode, I’...
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31. How My People Pleasing Attracted A Toxic Relationship & 5 Steps I Took To Heal
Realizing that I was in a toxic relationship with a man I had married just months before opened my eyes to the devastating effects that people pleasing tendencies can have. In this episode, I’m opening up about what I discovered I was doing to ...
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30. The Worst Question People Pleasers Ask Themselves & What To Ask Instead
Do you find yourself constantly asking "why" questions? Why did I do that? Why can't I get control of my eating? Why am I so disorganized? Then you’re definitely going to want to hear the four reasons why the “why” questions can be detrimental ...
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