64. Why You Feel Invisible When You’re Always the Helper, Fixer, or Peacekeeper; This Disconnects You From Your Value Artwork

Mastering Midlife with Heidi

Are you at a place in your life where you think you should have it all figured out by now? Heidi Gustafson is a Board-Certified Hypnotist and Mindset Coach who has taken all her life challenges and turned them into her superpower of creating a life that she loves… and she coaches midlife women to do the same! If you feel like you've tried everything and still don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place. From painful divorce to retirement, chronic people pleasing to crushing self doubt, Coach Heidi explores the reasons behind our actions and gives real-world solutions to living a happier, more fulfilling life. She'll teach you how to regain self trust, come to terms with the past, and allow space for your future. Midlife can be your best years yet. Stop merely surviving and get ready to thrive with Coach Heidi!

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64. Why You Feel Invisible When You’re Always the Helper, Fixer, or Peacekeeper; This Disconnects You From Your Value

June 02, 2025 • Heidi Gustafson

Do you show up one way with others, but feel completely different inside, maybe even the polar opposite of what others see in you? In this episode, I’m revealing what causes us to be this way and how this disconnection leaves us feeling small and invisible.

Listen to hear:

how the pain of always being what others needed (the helper, the dependable one, the peacekeeper, the “good” girl) disconnects us from ourselves,
why it feels safer to be what others want, and
how learning to put other people first causes us to seek external validation in midlife

What causes us to continually shape-shift to fit in with others? And what’s the one key thing that’s needed to stop? That’s what you’ll learn in this episode.

The one common thing I’ve seen in everyone who prioritizes OTHER people over themselves is a struggle to protect their OWN needs. That’s exactly why I created the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz so you can see for yourself. It’s a set of statements that you rate yourself on and the quiz helps you uncover where your boundaries might be leaky without you even realizing it. Download the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz here: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquiz

If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min

More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi

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