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Mastering Midlife with Heidi
Are you at a place in your life where you think you should have it all figured out by now? Heidi Gustafson is a Board-Certified Hypnotist and Mindset Coach who has taken all her life challenges and turned them into her superpower of creating a life that she loves… and she coaches midlife women to do the same! If you feel like you've tried everything and still don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place. From painful divorce to retirement, chronic people pleasing to crushing self doubt, Coach Heidi explores the reasons behind our actions and gives real-world solutions to living a happier, more fulfilling life. She'll teach you how to regain self trust, come to terms with the past, and allow space for your future. Midlife can be your best years yet. Stop merely surviving and get ready to thrive with Coach Heidi!
Episodes
61 episodes
60. Tired of Feeling Responsible for Everyone Else’s Happiness? 15 Habits to Stop
If you're someone who bends over backwards to keep the peace, this episode is for you! Tune in to learn how you can stop carrying the emotional weight of everyone else and start breathing more freely in your own life. In this episode, you’ll le...
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59. 7 Hard Truths About Self Worth and Acceptance I Wish I'd Learned Sooner
Are you trapped in the cycle of people-pleasing and losing sight of who you truly are? It took me over four decades to break free, and this episode is here to guide you on the journey of self-worth and acceptance. Join me as I reveal seven tran...
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58. Why Speaking Up For Yourself Feels Hard; Gain Confidence With 10 Vital Steps
Have you ever left a conversation wishing you'd spoken up? Or found yourself over-explaining and then feeling guilty afterward? If the fear of expressing yourself has left you silent or overwhelmed, you're not alone, I've been there too. In thi...
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57. How to Gain Confidence, Self Respect, and Acceptance: 10 Steps to Break Free of People Pleasing
What really happens when you stop people pleasing? Speaking up and setting boundaries are powerful steps, and they can also bring unexpected challenges. In this episode, you'll learn:The ten key steps to break free f...
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56. What Would I Tell My Younger Self? Is This People Pleasing? How Do I Handle Resentment? Your Questions Answered
Breaking free from people pleasing can feel overwhelming, especially when you're not sure what to expect or how to handle the discomfort that comes with this huge change. Today, I'm answering some questions that have come through comments on my...
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55. 25 Simple Things I Did to FINALLY Accept, Love & Trust Myself in Midlife
It's a very special 2-year anniversary episode of the podcast! Today, I'm giving you 25 simple life changes I made to reinvent my life over the last 7 years after my toxic marriage ended and I got fired from my job. In this episode, you'll lear...
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54. What 62 Years Taught Me About Self Trust, Self Acceptance, and Self Worth: 10 Lessons
Throughout my life, I've experienced hard lessons that pushed me to figure out self trust and taught me to finally accept myself. Changing your life starts with changing how you see yourself, and in this episode I'm sharing 10 lessons to help y...
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53. The LIE That’s Destroying Your Confidence, Self-Esteem, & Hurting All Your Relationships
How often do you catch yourself changing your words or actions to avoid someone else's negative reaction? If you're familiar with this habit, it might be rooted in a pattern of people-pleasing that erodes your confidence and relationships over ...
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52. Stop These 7 People-Pleasing Behaviors for a Confident, Joy-Filled 2025
Do you ever find yourself saying yes when your gut is screaming no? If you struggle with people-pleasing, this habit can rob you of your time, energy, and self-worth. In this episode, you'll learn:The seven sneaky people-pleasing be...
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51. 8 Secrets to Increase Your Confidence & Self Esteem & Escape the People Pleasing Cycle
It took me over five decades to realize that being "nice" was actually damaging my self esteem and confidence. Today, I'm revealing 8 eye-opening behaviors that were keeping me trapped in this cycle, plus sharing how you can break free from thi...
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50. People Pleasing Trap: How Do I Say ‘No’ & Avoid Disappointing Someone?
Have you ever felt obligated to say yes just to avoid disappointing someone? This common people pleasing dilemma can often leave us feeling overwhelmed and resentful. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why a reluctant yes is more harmful...
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49. How People Pleasing Destroys Self Worth! Take Back Control with One Game-Changing Question
Do you ever catch yourself asking, "what if they don't like me?" If you're a people pleaser, this question can end up running, and even ruining your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:What causes us to people-please and se...
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48. More Life Lessons from an Ex People-Pleasing Procrastinating Perfectionist
If you've ever hesitated to ask for help, felt trapped by your commitments, or lost touch with your true self, this is your wake-up call. In this episode, you’ll learn:The three lessons that shattered my people-pleasing, perfectioni...
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47. 10 Lessons I Learned About Boundaries & Self Worth In A Hot Yoga Class
After 15 years of practicing hot yoga, I’ve learned quite a few lessons that go way beyond the mat. But don’t worry, YOU don't have to know a thing about yoga or bend yourself into a pretzel to learn these lessons too. In this episode you’ll le...
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46. Boundaries: Are You Being Rude & Selfish? A Listener Question
Setting boundaries is one thing, but enforcing them can sometimes leave you feeling guilty and rude. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why we might feel like we’re being rude when setting or enforcing boundariesHow to enforce b...
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45. The Avoidance Trap That Causes Us to Not Set Boundaries
Have you been avoiding certain situations or conversations in order to maintain your sense of control? In this episode, you’ll learn:Four reasons we put limits on ourselves Real life examples of things we avoid in orde...
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44. Boundary Mistakes People Make & How They Add Stress To Your Life
Are you always trying to be everything to everyone and repeatedly make exceptions for the boundaries you’ve set? In this episode, you’ll learn:What leaky boundaries are and seven ways to gauge if you have holes in your boundary buck...
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43. Saying 'Sorry' Is Damaging Your Self Worth! How to Stop Over Apologizing
Do you find yourself apologizing too much, even for things you don’t need to be sorry for? In this episode, you’ll learn:The five reasons we feel the need to apologize so muchHow over-apologizing impacts our relationships a...
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42. How Feeling Guilty & Selfish Destroys Your Self Worth
Constant feelings of guilt and selfishness can be devastating to your self-esteem, making you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself, worried about being seen as self-centered, and afraid to say no or express your true feelings. In thi...
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41. How I FINALLY Learned to Set Boundaries From a Toxic Relationship
Do you struggle with saying no, justifying negative behavior, changing yourself to fit others' expectations, or feeling resentful when your kindness isn't reciprocated? Setting and upholding healthy boundaries is a common struggle for many wome...
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40. Stop Second-Guessing Yourself: Mastering Self-Trust as a People Pleaser
I’m doing something a little different this week and answering a powerful question from a listener about learning how to trust our own decision-making. In this episode, you’ll learn:How we become trained to doubt ourselves from a yo...
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39. The People Pleasing Trap: I’m Not Happy Unless YOU Are Happy!
Does your people pleasing behavior have you feeling like you don’t even know who you are anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn:Why you can’t depend on others for your happiness and what problems arise when you doThree step...
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38. Breaking Free from Perfectionism: 10 Simple Steps
Perfectionism is a thief of happiness, joy, feeling successful, calm, content, fulfilled, or any feeling we'd like to have. It's an exhausting behavior that often causes chronic stress and burnout. But, you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle...
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37. Are You A People Pleaser Who Breaks Promises to Yourself?
Do you find it easier to keep the promises you make to others but struggle with the ones you make to yourself? In this episode, you’ll learn:How breaking promises to ourselves can affect our mental healthThe subconsci...
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36. Part 2: 7 Harmful Myths About People Pleasing
Welcome to part two of our series diving into the harmful myths that keep us trapped in the cycle of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. Tune in as we continue debunking these myths and learning how to break free from their grip. In this episod...
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